Today is my second wedding anniversary. I know this because I wrote it down last week, after Rob looked up from writing on the calendar and said, “Do we have anything May 5th? I feel like we do.”
“I don’t think so, but it sounds familiar… hm. Nope, nothing on my calendar for that.” We racked our brains for a minute before it clicked. We just aren’t sentimental about it.
On Sunday night, my mother-in-law mentioned it excitedly, and asked if we had big plans. We didn’t. “Very romantic!” she said, sarcastically. But we don’t care.
There are Rob-related moments that mean a lot more to me than May 5. I remember the date we got engaged, April 22, and the date we first met, August 4. There another date I remember, too, but, you know, I’ll spare you, because if I told you the first time we decided to duet and it turned out to be your birthday, THAT WOULD BE AWKWARD.
I don’t remember all the important dates, though.
What I’d really like to remember, and can’t, is the first time I looked in my wallet, realized I didn’t have cash, and found his to take out a twenty. When did we become money stealing close? When did we reach the point that we started showering together occasionally for no other reason than to save time? How did I forget to take note of the beginning of the dictionary of inside phrases and jokes and songs we have? Shouldn’t I be celebrating the fact that he will always get out of bed and shut the window, or get me another blanket, if I’m cold? Furthermore, when was the first time he got out of bed, found wool socks, and put them on my ice cube feet for me so I wouldn’t have to stick my arms out into the frigid room to do it myself? I wish I thought to write that one down, because he does this on a fairly regular basis, and if that doesn’t deserve a party that what does? Also, when did it become ordinary to ask of each other, “Smell. Is my breath horrible? HAAAAHHHH!”? Because I really like that I can do that.
May 5, 2007 was fun, but it wasn’t what it should have been. Things I tried to make happen never materialized, and things that should have never, ever happened went on while I watched helpless (and no, Jen, it wasn’t you forgetting the ring!) I didn’t feel the way I should have felt, and if I could go back and choose between not having a wedding at all or having the wedding we did, I would have eloped because, in the end, there was only one thing I really cared about, and I would have gotten him either way. He was the best part of the whole thing.
(Well, him and that cake.)
Today is my birthday, so you know I think you chose a good day to get married.
Although I understand what you’re saying. There are a lot of moments that go into a relationship, and many of them are more meaningful than a wedding. I am particularly jealous that your husband gets your socks for you. Now THAT is a great guy.
Happy Anniversary!
AmberS
5 May 09 at 12:57 am
Loved your take on how there are so many other things that make you guys special. I’m a big believer that it’s all about the little things that make us feel special in relationships.
A toast to you and Rob!
Happy Anniversary
Andrea
5 May 09 at 1:28 am
Came across your blog in a tweet from @robgokeemusic
This was perfection:)I am going to try and remember to jot down some unusual but important dates from now on:) thanks for the inspiring blog.
Kimberly
5 May 09 at 1:50 am
Happy Anniversary!
Chaz
5 May 09 at 7:16 am
BAHHHH you had me crying before 10AM. I am sappy and it’s about that time…so. ANYWHO. Happy Anniversary!
it’s the little things that count, the wedding is just kinda like a party to celebrate all the little details that make the two of you perfect for each other.
the cake was YUM and the flowers were pretty and Jen really liked the champagne with little berries in them..and i did too.
p.s. i love you guys and am really grateful for being part of your AWESOME lives.
carissa
5 May 09 at 9:41 am
My morning fix (you) never lets me down. Should we see each other in person again, just be aware that I may hug you as though we’ve known one another for years.
Nadia
PS is that photo of YOUR wedding cake? Looks absolutely scrumptious. Hmmm almost noon. Maybe I should feed myself
Happy anniversary!
Nadia P
5 May 09 at 11:38 am
That is indeed my wedding cake, with me and Rob on top. His figure even has a little ponytail.
Also, I love hugs!
amber
5 May 09 at 12:58 pm
AWWWW!
That’s really all I can say to this post.
Kristan
5 May 09 at 2:35 pm
I take great pride in having walked out of your wedding and back in without you noticing. Although…I think a raving sea monster could have attacked your wedding and you wouldn’t have noticed from all the GOOGLY EYE STARING you were doing
Happy Anniversary, friend.
Jen
5 May 09 at 2:54 pm
happy cinco de mayo!
weddings are overrated; wedding photos however..
melissa schwartz
5 May 09 at 3:38 pm
Aw, you sound like old married folks, in that good comfy old married folks way. Congrats you two!
Annie
5 May 09 at 8:53 pm
2 years is still honeymoon period. Enjoy each other! Happy anniv!
G.
5 May 09 at 8:58 pm