Three years ago this week, in a cloud of romanticism and self-assured victory, I legally changed my name to Amber Marlow Blatt. It was two years after we were married, and I was thrilled and happy to be “The Blatts” and have my own, new, snappy middle name. I took this photo of my name change forms with my iPhone while waiting for them to call my name at the DMV.
I didn’t know until I knew that I was dropping the Blatt officially. I didn’t want to go through changing everything all over again and figured I could just be Amber Marlow socially, but it always comes down to the most empowering thing for me, and that means not having to answer to “Blatt” every time I traveled or was in a legal setting. In the past several weeks I’ve been all over the country, using my legal name for planes and hotels, and found out that hard way that my soul gets bruised a little every time someone calls me “Ms. Blatt”. It has to go. I’m allowed to pick a new middle name, too, but I just don’t have that in me. I’m so… tired, and the thought of making this decision is completely overwhelming right now, even though I know I might regret it when the dust finally settles on my life.
Then I remembered how awesome and supportive blog readers are.
So, internet: what should my middle name be? No rules, just awesomeness; give me your best ideas in the comments. And thank you, not just for this. For everything. You inspire me to keep my chin up.