Mostly OK
Hey, what’s up? I haven’t written anything real here in ages.
An update: I’m in paperwork hell trying to get divorced. It’s not something totally appropriate to talk about extensively, and it’s pretty snooze-worthy anyway. I’ll take the tediousness, though; I’m thankful every day that, in the end, it’s just a lot of boring paperwork and not a custody battle or a war over finances (as divorces go, this one is rather peaceful) but it’s brutal anyway, because, you know, duh. It’s a divorce.
And of course it’s especially tough now that it’s the holidays. Even before the separation I knew this would be a tough season; immediately upon finding out I was pregnant last summer, I started day-dreaming about December 2012 being filled with first Santa photos and very tiny plaid flannel PJs. Now it is here, but my family doesn’t exist.
It’s fine, except for the moments when it isn’t, but it’s been surprising to find that, mostly, it is ok.
I’ve declined putting a tree up this year but already have the bubbly chilling for New Years Eve. Do you blame me? 2012 blew goat balls.
Go time, go.
sis
13 Dec 12 at 6:30 pm
Working in an attorney’s office as a girl paralegal, I deal with that paperwork hell day in and day out. And yes, you are correct, no matter how amicable you are or how few issues, divorce still sucks aforesaid goat balls.
Good friends and making a good life can get you through it and as with many of our clients, you will come out the other side of the experience as a better person – proudly scarred, but still intact.
Happy 2013 to you.
Amy
13 Dec 12 at 10:01 pm
The loose ends are the worst. UGH. Here’s to an amazing 2013, lady. It’ll be better soon. You deserve every bit of good that’s coming your way. xoxo
my honest answer
14 Dec 12 at 4:02 am
Oh Amber, what a year. You’re brave and strong, and I hope 2013 is a year of amazing things for you (and all of us) x
margosita
14 Dec 12 at 9:36 am
I do not blame you, no. You deserve whole buckets of ice cold bubbly champagne to ring in a newer, better year.
Glad to hear you are doing mostly ok. That is a pretty amazing accomplishment, all things considered.
Cindy
15 Dec 12 at 11:12 am
2012 did suck balls. I’m proud of you and the way you’ve handled yourself. Cheers to a new year filled with wonderful new things.
Johanna
15 Dec 12 at 10:30 pm
You can come share our tree. (In fact, if Christmas-on-an-island doesn’t work out, you can come share our Christmas too.) And I’m thrilled that I get to share a bottle of bubbly and a start of a new year with you. 2013 is gonna be the one. I can FEEL it.
misstraceynolan
16 Dec 12 at 12:43 pm
Oh, man. Your 2013 is going to kick some serious ass.