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Boudoir photography been brewing in the back of my brain for years; aside from an occasional toe-dip into it, it’s never taken off. Then, when I realized that there was a GLARING hole in the industry that was missing guys, masculine of center gals, larger girls, women of color, tattooed girls, boys in lipstick, couples – basically, anyone who isn’t female, thin, and white – I needed to get to work.

Naming a boudoir company is hard, though. The working title is Gentle Sting but I started to hate it, and now no friend can come over without being sucked into a brainstorming session (at least I keep wine in the house.) The above photo is of notes stuck to the door in my living room from about a week of fussing.

It needs to be naughty but not dirty, subversive without being obscure, and, most important (and most difficult): sexy but not feminine or masculine.

My instinct was to hold my cards close to my chest until a name was picked, but you guys did a great job with my middle name, so what say you? Any good ideas?

February 12th, 2014 | posted in blah blah blah,career | tagged

No Fee Destination Weddings


One of my goals for the coming year is to shoot more elopements and intimate weddings around the world. I’m daydreaming about Europe, Mexico, Hawaii, the Caribbean, romantic winter elopements in New England, rustic weddings in Colorado, and desert weddings in California. I have no idea how one gets started doing something like this, but honestly, I had no idea how someone gets a career like mine, and now I just… do it. So I’m just doing this, too.

I’ve driven and flown to other parts of the country to shoot weddings before and had my overnight accommodations/airfare/car rental comped, which is normal, but I haven’t traveled that much. So, to make hiring me for this a fantastic bargain – and to get a few destination weddings under my belt – I am waiving all travel fees for 2014. The only catch is that it has to be 200 miles outside of Brooklyn, and I’ll get myself there on my own. I have a few thousand dollars from the sale of my car sitting in a savings account, and this is what I’m going to do with it.

My accountant was like, “Whaaaat?”, but I’m really excited. I’ve got no idea if this is anything that I can actually pull off or not, but if I fall flat on my face, I’m fairly certain I’ll be ok.

Is this nuts?! Wait, don’t answer that.

If you know of someone getting married somewhere fun, feel free to send them my way. My professional website is here, and they can use the contact form to get in touch.

January 9th, 2014 | posted in career | tagged

My Interview on In Pursuit of Happiness

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Britt Reints interviewed me for her blog In Pursuit of Happiness. In it, I continue to yammer about the importance of getting rid of clutter to make me happy. You can read it here.

November 5th, 2013 | posted in bits,career | tagged

All Work

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This week, you guys.

After a week of California weather, friends, hugs, and fun dinners, I came home exhausted, inspired, and ready to tuck in my chin and work. Like I was saying, my workflow hasn’t been the best, but thanks to a few new-to-me pieces of cool photographer software, I’ve honed it down and am now working out the kinks.  I came up for air briefly when Daffodil stayed overnight on Wednesday for the Brooklyn stop of her book tour, and I hung out with the folks next door Halloween night giving out candy (and helping to chase my toddler neighbor, who dressed as a chocolate-streaked lion), but other than that, I crammed about four weeks of work into one, and it was awesome, although there isn’t a clean dish in my house. And no new blog posts, which is sad.

Happy November!

November 1st, 2013 | posted in blah blah blah,career | tagged

5 Goals For the Coming Year


At Camp Mighty every year we talk about our upcoming 5 things that we are going to accomplish in the coming year. This year I’ve departed from my Life List a little and picked five goals that I need to accomplish to feel like I’m progressing as a person. I am totally allowed to do this. Here they are.

1. My big one: Learn “grownup business stuff”. Super boring, but I started my business sort of by stumbling into it, and then never really learned how to do it properly except here and there. There are SEO techniques I’m not using to promote myself, “quarterly taxes” are something I’ve only heard about, and there are all sorts of things I should be doing that I’m not. I want to run an actual real grown up business, and also learn more about equipment and very advanced photography editing techniques, workflow, and running an operation that is tight as a drum. This is hard for me to admit, actually, that I don’t do this right now. 2013 is the first year I’m filing taxes as a single person, and I am L-O-S-T. The kicker is that I’m pretty successful and good at producing quality work, I’m just disorganized behind the scenes.

2. Live in a rockin’ batchelorette pad. Straight from my Life List and scrawled on there at a moment when my entire life was all down around my ears. It’s halfway there at this point, and I cannot wait to show you the photos when I’m done.

3. Expand the boudoir aspect of my photography business. This is something I’ve wanted to do for a really long time, and I have some exciting ideas, but growing my business seems daunting without wrapping my hands around goal number one first. So that’s a secondary goal. I want to work with couples to make sexy, non-sketchy photos, and also women, and men, and people who are gender queer. Human sexuality is so interesting to me, and I want to explore it in a fun, artistic way. If you can help me with this or have ideas, please reach out via email.

4. Write more fun editorial content on my blog. This is lowest on the totem pole, but right now daydreaming about a blog overhaul is keeping me happy. I want to write about fun stuff like books, and cocktails, wine, makeup, and interesting things to do in New York. I have friends doing amazing things and want to introduce readers to them.

5. Get really fit. Self-explanatory. There’s a goal on my Life List that says “be a person that exercises regularly”, something that would have been unthinkable two years ago, and now I think it’s actually starting to happen. I work out at LEAST once a week, if not more, and I see that increasing in the future, because it feels so amazing. I never thought I’d say that, but here I am.

October 22nd, 2013 | posted in career,life list | tagged

Published! “Baby Sign Language” by Sarah Christensen Fu


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A while ago I was hired to photograph a baby sign language booklet/flash card set. I met Sarah in our neighborhood to discuss the project, and we got on like gang busters. There were a few snags in the road and we both learned a lot, but we did it, and last week the publisher sent me an advance copy. I think it looks great! Check out my name right there in print.

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My buddy Miles!

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My favorite part of the finished project (aside from making an awesome friend) was that while we were “on set” photographing one of Sarah’s young sons doing some signs, Matty wandered into the room and onto the set. Matty really loves little kids, I suspect because they’re usually sticky with something delicious and full of snacks, and kids, even babies, seem to universally respond warmly to him, probably because his face is so friendly and his stumpy basset hound legs make him low to the ground. He’s right on eye level. My little subject was having a snack and was cheerfully flinging crackers towards a grateful dog. Amused, I snapped a photo of the two of them and accidentally uploaded it with all of the other files to the publisher. And they used it! My dog is famous.

If you ever need anyone to hang a blue background up in five minutes flat, call Sarah and me – we are your gals. You can pre-order the book here.

September 19th, 2013 | posted in career | tagged

To Read: 35 Questions that Will Change Your Life by Jason Nazar

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In the past few days, this article from Forbes has been bookmarked on my iPhone, and whenever I’ve had a minute free, I’ve popped it open and looked it over. The article is called “35 Questions That Will Change Your Life”, and it’s powerful, gut-churning stuff. Jason Nazar, the author starts, with a doozy:

“What are you pretending you don’t know?”

Holy cow. He started with my biggest struggle. It turns out that ignoring problems doesn’t make them go away, but through the years I’ve certainly tried to shove major issues under the rug instead of dealing with them head-on. It’s been my MO both personally and professionally way too often, and it always ends up biting me in the face eventually.

“What do you want your life to be in five years?”

I used to be the kind of person where life happened to me. A few years ago that changed; I grabbed the bull by the horns and said, “I am going to live the life that I want” which resulted in me dropping 45 pounds and running a successful business. Recently, though, I’ve been cruising along on kind of a plateau with a “I’ll just focus on today.” mentality, which works, but it’s easy to get stagnant. Now I have to start making some long-term goals, too. Scary! I am honestly tired thinking about it. In five years I’ll be 36. That doesn’t even seem like a real age I’d be allowed to be.

Go read the article, and then tell me what questions tapped you between the eyes. I’d love to hear!

September 10th, 2013 | posted in blah blah blah,career | tagged

Cool Careers for Dummies


When I was 18, I bought a book called “Cool Careers for Dummies” and packed it along with my discman on a trip to Maine with Jen, her parents, and a few of our friends, including Micah who is now her husband of nine years, and the whole trip was kind of weird because Jen and Micah sort of liked each other but it was tense and awkward, but now it’s better because when I go, “you guys looooove each other!” they respond with grinning and making outs in their kitchen instead of looking down, shuffling their feet, and turning bright red.

We’ve come a long way. I am less of a punk now.

Anyway, one of the careers I earmarked was “Neon Sign Maker” because that seemed awesome, and as it turns out, Kelly Mark is an artist that makes them. It’s not too over-the-top to get one for my living room, is it?

When I was a young teenager I wanted to make things that were visually beautiful and meet a lot of people which is exactly what I do now, but I never knew what it would look like until a decade and a half later when it fell into place. I think it’s so cool that I’ve stayed true to who I was years ago!

What did you want to be when you grew up? Are there elements of what you dreamed of that are present in your job today?

August 22nd, 2013 | posted in blah blah blah,career,good things | tagged

Headshots for Charity:Water

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I am so excited: Camp Mighty is coming up this October. It will be my fourth year going to a Mighty Event in the fall (holy cow). As per tradition, attendees are to raise money for Charity:Water, an organization that helps get clean water to impoverished villages in need around the world.

To raise my portion of the funds this year I’m going to do what I do best: take photos of faces. My “20 minute, $150 photo session” got removed from my official list of business offerings last month, but it’s coming back just for now, and only for Charity:Water.

It works like this: you contribute at least $50* to the Camp Mighty 2013 Charity:Water donation page, meet me somewhere in New York City looking dapper, and we do a 20 minute photo shoot that is fun and makes you look fantastic. You come away with a good handful of photos at really great bargain for use on LinkedIn, social media, or online dating. You also get to do some good.

To book, go to the donation page, write “for Amber Marlow, team 5″ in the comment section, and email me to set up a date and time: amber {at} amberMarlow {dot} com.

Thanks in advance for helping me make a difference, and please spread the word to your friends for me.

*If you don’t want a photo session but would still like to contribute, you may make a donation of any amount, putting “for Amber Marlow, team 5″ in the comment section.

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August 21st, 2013 | posted in career,photos | tagged

My Interview for The Dream Share Project

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The Dream Share Project, a film/book/workshop that inspires people to follow their dreams and dream careers, invited me to share my thoughts about starting my career, following my passion and living as a professional creative.

Here’s an excerpt:

Q: What’s your advice for people who are worried about failure or rejection?

…The important thing is when crummy things happen, learn what you can and then brush your shoulders off. Failure isn’t messing up – you are going to mess up for sure. Failure is messing up and then giving up. And success isn’t something you eventually reach, and then you’re done. It’s not a moment or a line crossed. Success is choosing to keep moving forward, and you have to make that choice every day.

You can read the whole thing here.

August 6th, 2013 | posted in blah blah blah,career | tagged